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Understanding the Multiplicity of Our Self-States

Shelley Stokes, PhD and Sherron Lewis, LMFT

We all have many self-states comprised of various thoughts, beliefs, dominant moods, feelings, memory, skills, regulatory physiology, and intentions which bring a great deal of dimensionality to our life and to our sense of self. Each has its own “narrative truth”, its own story to tell, that has developed over time and circumstance. SIT DOWN AND TALK WITH YOURSELF is about finding, listening to, and giving voice to the many internal voices that come from the varying self-states that comprise that vital,subjective core which acts as a source of authentic self-expression that is the center of meaningful subjective experience–that complex entity we call “me”.


What Daughters Learn from Fathers and Sons Learn from Mothers

Shelley Stokes, PhD and Sherron Lewis, LMFT

The bond between fathers and daughters and the bond between mothers and sons are quite special and reciprocally deep in their impact throughout our lives, especially when it comes to self-esteem, relational health, decision-making and our sense of self and of life’s meaning.   The father serves as a positive model of the masculine for his daughter and also serves as a safe and playful interactive regulator of fear and aggression.  The mother serves as a model of the feminine for her son and, also, provides a core foundational structure for the development of his internal sense of a secure self.  Also, from infancy through adulthood, daughters help their dads to more empathically understand women, sons help their moms to more empathically understand men, and, reciprocally all learn to better understand themselves.

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